How to Get a Girlfriend

I was browsing randomly and God knows how my head sparks the idea of searching 
"How to Get a Girlfriend". 
Surprisingly, Google gives me a list of websites and I found this the most useful one. 
They even provide a video about it lolwtf.

  1. Talk to as many women as possible, not just girls you're immediately attracted to. This gives you good practice in talking to women (especially if you have any anxiety about that) and learning about how girls feel and think, in general. Make it a goal to talk to at least 5 new women a day (in person, any woman, any age, any appearance, any personality). 
  2. Something you should consider is letting her know you are single. Wearing a "single bracelet" will do the trick and they are stylish. There are nice ones at various online retailers. 
  3. Don't use “canned material”, “nuclear attraction” routines, or other social robotics. The best way to make a connection with someone is to come from the heart and live fully in the moment. What you say isn’t nearly as important as how you say it. Socializing is about exchanging energy, not being a wordsmith. When in doubt, just say “Hi”.
  4. Put yourself out there. You don't have to hit the bars or the clubs if that's not your scene, but you have to do something that exposes you to new people. Pursue interests and activities that mean a lot to you. The Internet has made this a whole lot easier. Check forums, listings, classifieds, and listservs for local events or meetings that are likely to attract people with similar interests or passions. You can also explore new interests or activities--you might find a new passion and a girlfriend in one fell swoop! 
  5. Keep an open mind. If you're looking for a girlfriend (that is, someone who will be in a committed relationship with you) you should be more willing to overlook initial shyness and awkwardness so that you can get to know a person over more than one date. Your future girlfriend might be someone who you initially didn't see as "girlfriend material" but as you spend more time with her, you discover more things you like about her and you suddenly find yourself romantically interested. 
  6. Practice genuinely complimenting girls. Challenge yourself to find something beautiful in any girl. It doesn't have to be something physical; it can be a cute gesture, an admirable trait, a talent or skill. Recognizing and expressing true appreciation for any and every girl will make you more attracted to girls and girls more attracted to you.  
  7. Flirt. A big part of being charming is knowing how to flirt, and the people who are best at flirting are people who are always in a playful and laid back state of mind. It's the opposite of being serious, nervous, or uptight
  8. Become a good conversationalist. Don't babble on and on about your mother, your cat, or your collection of bugs. A good conversationalist keeps finding things they have in common, and they do it in a casual, non-intrusive way. For example, there's a difference between asking someone "Have you ever held a tarantula?" and saying "Have you ever felt the tiny hairs of a tarantula's legs brush up against the palm of your hand?" The latter is more poetic, but way too intimate for a first conversation for most people.
  9. Close the deal. If you like the woman you're talking to, be the one who ends the conversation. This prevents the conversation from lingering into an awkward silence, shows that you're busy (i.e. not needy or desperate), and allows you to end the conversation on a positive note. When you end the conversation, simply say "Hey, I've gotta go, but it's been really good talking to you. Want to continue this over a cup of coffee sometime?" If she says yes, get her phone number and move on. If she says no, just move on. That's all there is to it.
  10. When you go on dates with girls, break the touch barrier. If you're terrified of touching someone the wrong way, to the extent that you hesitate and never touch them first, your intentions are good and all, but your "touch paralysis" isn't helping you at all in the romantic department. Take a few little "touch risks". Be playful. Don't just always wait for them to do it first. If they don't like it, they'll definitely let you know. But touching someone communicates to them that you find them attractive, and also that you're reasonably confident. Both of these things can make someone feel more attracted to you.
  11. Make her laugh. Girls love guys who have a good sense of humor, and the key to having a good sense of humor is to be lighthearted, and unabashedly yourself. As long as you're not making fun of people in a mean-spirited way, anything goes. Is your sense of humor perverted? Slapstick? Sarcastic? Go with it, and don't worry about whether or not she thinks you're funny because you know what? If she can't laugh with you, then this isn't a girl you want to spend a lot of time with anyway. And who knows? Maybe another girl—one whom you hadn't noticed before—will be laughing so hard that her soda comes out of her nose, and maybe you've just found your soulmate.
  12. Help someone. It could be her, or it could be someone else in the room. Is she carrying something heavy? Say "let me help you with that" and carry it for her. Is someone short on cash? Lend them a few dollars so they can eat lunch. Hold the door open for the next person coming through, even if they haven't reached it yet. In other words, be a kind and generous person. Not only will it get her attention, but it will also make you feel good about yourself. Don't be fake and do nice things only when she's around, though. Help people all the time, in a wide variety of ways. She'll notice, and so will the people she knows, and on the occasion that you come up in a conversation, people will say "He's such a great person!" and this girl will start thinking "Yeah...he is, isn't he?"
  13. If you find yourself getting lots of girl friends but no girlfriend, avoid the friend zone. The key here is to stop investing time and energy into girls who don't want to be your girlfriend. That may sound cold, but the fact is that you're "tying up" your feelings by maintaining a close friendship with someone who you have feelings for, but who isn't romantically interested in you. It'll be difficult to develop feelings for someone else if your feelings for this person are fueled every time you hang out. Even if you do manage to develop feelings for someone else, your heart might always be torn and confused, and it'll be hard to give your new flame your undivided affection. Sometimes the best thing to do is to take a "friend zone" friendship down to the level of acquaintance so you can focus more on dating.
  14. If you find that girls are interested in you and then pull away, stop being needy. You might be scaring women off with your eagerness (which can come off as desperation). Slow down, and avoid the temptation to idealize every girl you like. If you find yourself using or even thinking the word "perfect" then you're probably putting her on a pedestal. Fill your life with so many activities that you're too busy to become infatuated with any one girl.
  15. Be patient. Life doesn't normally work on the schedule you envision. Your future girlfriend might cross your path tomorrow or two years from now. A healthy relationship will color your world no matter how old you are, so don't rush into things, or else you might end up forcing the wrong person into the girlfriend role, which will cause pain for everyone involved. 

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